TRANSFORMATION - KNOW YOURSELF

Personal Transformation - Know yourself

The journey through the ABYSS, teaches us many things, including the sanctity and value of our alignment to what we want, prioritising our needs, our voice and peaceful perspective.

Which means that we need to have clarity about our voice, our messaging and our choices.  It’s time to own who we are, what we want and take responsibility for our decisions.  We're charting our own course here, and if you don’t like the direction you’re headed in, that’s ok – you can stop, reset, think about what you do want and make one new choice aligned to that destination.

Step out of the old paradigm 

Every now and again, in an act of courtesy and generosity of spirit, we make choices to accommodate the needs of others.

However, in a demanding world filled with ‘continual compromise’, this may result in a long list of unexpected duties and obligations, which can leave you wondering ‘how did I get here?’  

As this escalates, it may become difficult and uncomfortable for you to set healthy boundaries with the people you like and love, because you rationalise, that just for today, it’s ok to give them what they want.

You may even feel conflicted about stating what you want, because what you want, hasn't been a priority for a very long time.

And none of this nourishes or replenishes your soul.  No wonder we all spend so much time feeling quietly frustrated and resentful.

It's time for a change

Our desire to be easy-going, helpful, kind, or supportive, is reflective of our individual value system and without strong boundaries and a healthy self-awareness, we may repeatedly make well-meaning choices that don’t honour who we are.  

YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU

It is imperative to set healthy boundaries with the people you like and love.  And because they care for you, they’re going to respond by respecting your decisions.  It may feel unconfortable to begin with, but once you gently affirm these boundaries, you’ll see that when people know where they stand with you, it's easier for them to show up in an authentic and meaningful way.

COS YOU’VE GOT PLACES TO BE AND THINGS TO DO!

We all need boundaries that respect and uphold our integrity.  They support our value system and provide structure to ensure the nature of our choices reflect who we truly are.  We need to honour ourselves.

BECAUSE WHAT’S RIGHT FOR ANOTHER, MAY NOT BE RIGHT FOR YOU

And you know all compromises come with a caveat; there is always an expectation that later, there WILL be a fair exchange of energy or services.  

IT’S CALLED A ‘QUID PRO QUO‘

The problem is that unless we agree in advance, a simple compromise may carry a different weight, depending on our emotional set point on any given day.  So how do you measure the weight of a compromise? That’s easy… your endocrine system keeps score.  Feel drained, overwhelmed or tired? You've taken on too much.  Feel light?  You did something good for someone and it feels like joy.

By contrast, in families, the weight of a simple compromise may feel huge, because there have been so many accommodations on the way to this moment, that any additional compromise can immediately overwhelm the system.

STOP NEGOTIATING YOUR VALUE

It’s important to let people know what your needs are, without compromise, because moving forward, the relationships you want to develop, need to be honest, positive and respectful.

Why is this important? 

Because continual compromises don’t simply overwhelm your mental and emotional body.  Overtime, they can manifest in the physical body as chronic fatigue, adrenal overload, and burnout.  Giving yourself permission to have a voice, state what you need, and make the choice that supports your needs - nurtures your Soul.

When we abdicate responsibility for our choices to the collective, we end up with a life that reflects the collective.

When we say to ourselves ‘well I had no choice’, our ethical self knows that this is untrue. When we give our power away to others, when we say yes to the things that we want to say NO too:

• We validate the inner child that says ‘I never get my way’
• We send a message to our cellular body that our needs are not as important
• We ethically challenge our:
  • Emotional body (we feel hurt, repressed, or victimised)
  • Mental body (leading to overthinking / stress / worry)
  • Physical body (feeling drained / fatigued / exhausted)
• We challenge our spirit, who always wants to support us

And the mixed messages that we send our bodies, leads to genuine CONFUSION about what we want and who we are - because our identity has also become compromised. 

When you skew your lens of the world, to see it as others would have you view it, you disengage from your powerful self

When we’re young, we trust the people in authority around us, to teach us how to show up in the world.  We interpret and record their responses to our behaviour, like guide-posts – do this, don’t do that; directing us where to go, what to do and how to be.  However, as we evolve and grow, we become more inquisitive about who we are personally and what we want.

THIS IS A DEFINING MOMENT

Because we are no longer doing things in response to our environment, now we are trying to direct and personalise our experience.  This is where we run into resistance.  People aren’t always invested in knowing what you want, they are invested in what they want and how you can help them. 

THAT’S HUMAN

When you’re taught to identify as the person, that people in authority need you to be, and it begins to cause you pain or any level of discomfort – it’s time to ask yourself – what do I want?   

FLIP THE SCRIPT

Ask yourself: Are my needs at the top of my to-do list every morning?  If not, it’s time to re-write your list and set some healthy boundaries.

RECLAIM YOUR VOICE

When you honour your ethical self, you become accountable for your choices, and they begin to reflect the truth of who you are.  A stream of conscious choices, has the power to align you with the life you want, leading to the transformation that you desire.  Look at my Awakening Your Intuition Course for more information.

IT’S TIME TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE - ONE CHOICE AT A TIME

And you don’t need to do it alone.  If you’re ready to move forward and explore your potential, check out my Transformation Course or if you want to work on releasing the BLOCKS that you feel are holding you back, book a personalised Akashic Release session.  We’ll talk about you, your needs, and how to let go of anything that’s holding you back.   

SEE YOU SOON!